A Letter to My Daughter

A Letter to My Daughter

by

Sadaf Salman Makhdoom

Dearest love,

It's been days since I have been collecting a treasure of words to write down something for you. Yes, treasure because you are my most precious possession and my princess. You must be wondering why I haven't addressed your two younger sisters. To be honest, you are my emotional heir and I want you to be the one whom your sisters should follow. I want them to look up to you as a role model and their confidante.

You may or may not understand what I will write down right now because you are just a budding flower right now and I am sure by the time you reach your full blossom, you will surely understand what I am saying.

Love, the core of life is faith. It's not just religion which binds you to the faith; it's the faith in yourself that binds you to everything else. Have faith in yourself and it will empower you like none other. Faith always comes with perks, it gives you the grounds and the power to remain unshaken no matter how hard life hits you. True faith and belief in yourself makes you come back even stronger than before .

My lovely daughter, life is beautiful. It is just so full of surprises, some are good and others are not. I want you to know that in good times don't forget the not so good ones because that would make you humble. Vice versa, in bad times let the good times be the light to follow. Nothing is constant here, you will learn that with time. You will get to know beautiful people, some great friends but always remember that behind every face there lies another one. It will apply to you too once you grow up. We show up with different faces at different places, depending upon our situations. My love, always make sure you make no one sad, at least try because we aren't angels.

You will fall in love. It is one of the most beautiful experiences of life. Never evaluate anyone considering their circumstances and never ever judge them. Love is something that gives rhythm to life and I will be more than happy if you get to enjoy it.

Tread very carefully in life. You never know where and when a camouflaged enemy will be waiting. Just because they can’t be like you, my princess, they will hate you. There isn't any hard and fast rule that what people want to see in you.

Be everyone's friend but choose your friends very carefully.

Never be scared of making decisions, good or bad. We are not born perfect and I have hardly seen anyone mastering at perfection either. If a decision goes wrong, don’t  worry, just let it go with the flow and if the decision goes right just be humble, thankful and enjoy because nothing lasts forever.

Help others as you expect others to help you. I was once told in my childhood never to expect anything from anyone but time proved it wrong. Expectation is what keeps you going. Expecting the good about life and people is what helps you maintain a fair balance.

I want you to know that I may scold you and act unfair at times right now, but you, my daughter, hold the most precious corner of my heart. Life becomes stressful at times and mommy gets upset but trust me, seeing your beautiful innocent big eyes makes me forget all my worries.

I want you to know that no matter how life treats you, no matter what mistake you make, no matter how unfair things might get, your mommy will always be there to support you and love you through all this, without any judgment because I know how difficult growing up is.

You will understand all this, with time and with experience and I am sure you will have one of the most wonderful experiences, which your mother failed to experience.

Your ever loving mother

Opinion

Opinion 

By

Sadaf Salman Makhdoom

Opinion-nating is like urinating.You have your complete control over it but when you choose to let it go in uncertain times all you get is a fuck slap in your face.Continuation: the way people are not interested in your urine the exact same way they aren't interested in your opinions either so keep the opinions to your self unless and until it becomes unavoidable like a urine test to get your brain diagnosis done.In case opinions become inevitable and there is no way you can stop it from spilling from your mouth kindly make sure you don't dirty splash the others.I use different social media forums which aid in providing opinions.i am certainly not amazed how people regardless of the gender tend to pollute the medium with their opinion-ating.If God forbid some one asks for a suggestion or an opinion that person is doomed to hell by these opinionators..Even in routine life..opinions about your life ,relationship ,children and even god damn sexual life is not spared.Idon't know who was the originator of the opinion buy who ever he or she was should sure rot in hell.

Opinions are good if given, when required.Unasked and unwanted opinions are just a torture which one is bound to listen and trsut me it does leave a mark no matter good or bad on ones mind.unfortunately we have a lot of unwanted volunteers to tell us what to do regardless of their personal interest in our lives.

People living in their respective retrospectrum universe believe that their experiences and turns in life can influence others in their situations but they fail to understand is that we all live in our own galaxies and can only learn without opinions.

Asian Cuisine

Asian Cuisine

By

Sadaf Salman Makhdoom

Unlike all the super delicious and devourable foods “Biryani” holds a special place in our lives. It is as addictive as a good bottle of vodka. Once you get the taste of it you can hold that taste forever in your heart or precisely on your tongue. It's a tongue twister in a way that once you get to taste it you never get twisted on a bad tasted food.

Same goes with people. Once you get to taste the good people it becomes unbearable to tolerate the not so good ones. In my view bad people do not exist. Only qualities of people exist. Some are best, others are good and some are not good but trust me with better ingredients and the precision even not so bad ones can be turned into one of the best “Biryani” ever tasted.

Coming back to Biryani. When you add a handful of aromatic spices, juicy tomatoes and a very quality of rice, Biryani becomes the most beautiful experience for your tongue.

With the aroma of good nature and a handful of good deeds, a splash of happiness and a dressing of smile, you can turn a person into an unforgettable experience for someone which one can hold for an eternity to feel good about.

Taste…may it be in food or in selection of humans is very important and surely can be life changing. Aroma of a good person and influence that holds on you can be felt and can be worn like a perfume. Like when we add some “Kewra” or “Rose Water” on Biryani, it gives off heavenly smell that can make your intestines scream with hunger to devour the food.

I feel the same when I meet a few people, on seeing whom my heart screams with joy and I am utterly happy to be around them and it screams to reflect the amount of happiness and pleasure that person holds.

God created all of us with good persona, a good heart and a beautiful mind. It just needs right ingredients to bring that out .

Mind whores

Mind whores

by

Sadaf Salman Makhdoom

I came across a video of a brothel house in Lahore few days back which is going viral on social media. I admit I cannot take my mind off it since then. Naked women, half naked women, women trying to cover faces and then parasites and leeches all over the place. Those parasites and leeches were none other than the dutiful police officers who were very efficiently conducting the raid. There came a point in that video where a woman and a man were engaged in sexual activity and police raided the room. The girl was completely naked and caught off guard. Seeing the police she ran, grabbing some clothes, to the washroom. What followed next haunted me the entire night. Two Police men followed her in the washroom and were not letting her get dressed when the third intervened and sent them away. That royal dutiful officer, who probably has a sister, a mother, a wife and may be a daughter also at home, went on in the washroom and closed the door. What would happened next, I don't even want to imagine.

I am not in favour of brothels and prostitutes. But what I witnessed in this video will haunt me for quite some good time.

What have we become? Can we really blame sex workers and brothels for our gutter mindset? Who was the person who was filming the entire juicy raid? What about the person who made this a forwarded message?

I know people will skip all the clothing parts and will stick to that naked girl portion. She will be mocked. That clip will be used by young boys indulged in the pleasure of masturbation. Old men will get some juicy vibes. Girls watching will curse the moral less bitches stripping naked for men who throw money on their faces. House wives will discuss what has gone wrong with the society and who has lead this plague in to the land of pure from Shahi Mohallah? What next?

I hardly believe this clip will effect either that naked girl or half naked women or the men who went for the pleasure and above all it certainly won't effect that respectable police officer who had all the pleasure behind the closed door. What I fail to understand is what is the purpose of this video? Can't people just watch porn? Why do we have to disgrace people for an unwanted pleasure; to satisfy the gutter that is fixed upon our heads?

I also disagree with the term "brothel " here. It was actually a Whore House, to be precise. But who are these Whores? Can we distinguish them in the society? Can we differentiate them amongst us?

I heard a very popular TV personality, a politician to be precise, declaring that women get raped and disgraced because of the way they get dressed; particularly the elite and upper middle class girls. Hearing this crap, a question
arose in my mind, what about boys who get raped and disgraced? Do we blame their skin tight jeans?? He also stated that such women who dress up in jeans and skirts are not respectable, in hidden words he was saying they are "Whores". Whores are not respectable because they strip off their clothes for anyone who throws money on their faces and naked bodies and in return gets himself stripped off the humanity. I wish I could meet this politician someday and ask him what does he think about housewives who sleep with their husbands and in return they feed them and raise their kids??? Sounds familiar???

I disagree with the notion that Whore Houses and Brothels are introduced in any society for sexual pleasure and enjoyment. These came into existence because of a bunch of hungry women, hungry anorexic kids and jobless illiterate men with no skills. It gives me migraine thinking as to how come we blame these women and not the men who come there with their itching genitals?

What compelled me to write this is not the subject. It's neither Whores, Brothels or sex games being played. The police officer who went behind the door in that washroom where that woman was getting dressed compelled me. I would love to ask him how did his RAID go? Was the culprit in his dirty pants
satisfied? Will he get a star fixed there for his bravery? I hope the person filming will get an award for best cinematography for capturing something so
immoral that their own morals got out of their pants. I wish this bipolar society will understand one day that we all have a Whore living inside us who eats, sleeps, earns and have sex.

Ps: I wish I could attach the video here!