Letter to my daughter 2
by
Sadaf Salman Makhdoom
My heartbeat!
I love you beyond words.Love,that neither words nor expressions can explain.It's more like a paranormal activity.You can feel it but may never see it clearly because I am not blessed with the beautiful blessing of expression like you,so my daughter to start with,you should know that you are a superior human than your mother and a best version of myself.
In my previous letter to you all I told you about was the love-affair life offers us but I feel you should know the bitter half too.For that you need to understand that bitter is also a taste which unfortunately our buds are not accustomed to.With love affair comes betrayal.Betrayal is inevitable ,no matter in what shape or intensity, it will come.Do not get scared of betrayal because at the end of the even the darkest tunnel there is light awaiting.
Life will offer you beauties and happiness and but do remember life has the capacity if taking it back in a fraction of second and then my daughter comes the toughest part.People will tell you to stay head strong, fight with courage ,face the realities and move on, but your mother advises you otherwise my sunshine.Its ok to feel devastated,it's ok to feel that the world has fallen apart,its ok to feel that you will never be able to come out of it and it's absolutely okay to feel that life has ended for you.Grief is a very integral part of our lives,once we give it it's due share in life let's it's role get played it leaves you with peace with your own self.
When the grief leaves you it grants you with a very strange gift ,the gift of relief.Once you learn to have peace with grief and let it do it's work it will leave you gracefully empowering you with maturity and experience.I read somewhere "cry a bridge and get over it" so love,grief is that bridge across which ,you will find a ray of hope.
Sweetheart!I run out of words when I write you something because I feel I have so much to learn from you,yes you my darling because you have the purest strain of life in you where as mine got polluted with time and circumstances.
Remember!don't let yourself get absorbed by the pollution of negativity which will come in time because that is what life is about and learn to accept it as it comes and try to get the better out of it.While climbing the ladder of life you will face times when you will be pulled down but only then you will realize that people who pull you down are not bad or inhuman, it's just that they too are fighting their battles and demons.
I see you handling some issues very differently.I love your approach towards life and I assure you with this approach you will progress and will master the art of going on with the flow.I see my inner self in you.You are a true reflection of me when you leave yourself to the waves of the vast ocean of life and embrace the high and low tides with dignity.But what I wish for is you going against the tides,like a beautiful rebel you are,challenging and struggling for what is right.
As your mother,I would love to see you turning into a beautiful young soul who can decide and can categorize the bad,the good,the worst and the best for herself,just tread carefully and meanwhile focus on your flaws and perfections instead of pinpointing others.
I am a fortress of memories and experiences,some bitter and others beautiful.With time I will pour them out slowly for you to learn or at least use some portions of it in your life.My daughter,don't learn from my experiences,use mine as a dictionary when you feel you are getting lost.
I love you !
